Advice

How to deal with each of your loved ones

Add up to six people — family, friends, colleagues — and get personal advice for each: how to talk, what to ask for and what not to do.

You (the one asking)

Your name

You can use your voice: tap the microphone on your keyboard and say it all in one sentence

Date of birth

Time of birth

Place of birth

Person 1

Name

First name only: the surname isn’t needed for the calculation.

You can use your voice: tap the microphone on your keyboard and say it all in one sentence

Date

Time of birth

Place of birth

What to show

All of them are calculated anyway — you can switch later without recalculating.

Other people’s data. When you enter another person’s birth date, make sure they don’t mind. We don’t store this data — the calculation is done and returned to you right away. Don’t enter a surname, address or other details by which the person could be found: a name and a date are enough for the calculation.

I consent to the processing of my data for the calculation on the terms of the Consent to Data Processing and the Personal Data Processing Policy. If I enter another person’s data, I confirm that I have their consent, and that data for a minor is entered by their legal representative.

Tick the box — the calculation won’t start without it.

Frequently asked questions

How is this different from compatibility?

Compatibility looks at the bond between two people as a whole. This is different: you name the people close to you, and the site gives you advice on how to talk and reach agreement with that particular person, based on their Type and Authority. It’s about actions, not a diagnosis of the couple.

Is the advice really about my child, not about all children?

It’s easy to check: the advice contains concrete statements — for example, that they don’t decide right away and that a blunt “yes or no” question gets a worse answer than a conversation with no demand to decide now. If that isn’t them, the calculation missed, and we won’t try to convince you otherwise.

Do I need my loved ones’ consent to enter their dates?

Yes, and the form has a separate checkbox for it. The data isn’t stored, but you can’t enter someone else’s date of birth without their permission — for a minor, this is done by their legal guardian.

What if the pieces of advice contradict each other?

Look at which system each one comes from: they’re calculated independently and can disagree. A disagreement isn’t a malfunction — it’s a signal not to take either of them on faith. Where two systems agree is the only thing worth testing in practice first.

Do I need to know a loved one’s exact birth time?

No. If the time is unknown, mark “I don’t know”: Type, Authority and Profile, when they manage to change within the day, we’ll show as variants — with advice for each — and connections through Gates that shift, as well as aspects with the Moon, are left out of the score. What exactly shifts for this person is written under their card.

My child and I have the same Type, yet we don’t get along. Why?

The same Type doesn’t mean things are easy — sometimes the opposite. Two people who need the same thing (for example, both need to be asked first) can wait for each other for years. In the reading, look not only at what matches but also at the line about what to avoid: that’s where the answer usually is.

Check it — don’t take it on faith

Take a period you remember well and compare the advice with it. The future can’t be checked — the past can.
Find phrases in the text that could turn out to be false. If there are none and it all “sort of fits” — that’s a horoscope, not a calculation.
Look at where two systems disagree. When two agree, it’s a reason to look closer; when they disagree, it’s a reason to take neither on faith.

The full way to check — with our own measurements →

What this reading is. The calculation is made by a program from astronomical data. Human Design, astrology, Jyotish, numerology and the Destiny Matrix are not scientific systems, and the reading is for informational purposes. It is not medical, psychological, legal or financial advice and does not replace consulting a specialist. You make your own decisions.

How this advice works

Why different people need different approaches

We usually talk to everyone the same way — the way that’s convenient for us. We ask directly, expect an answer right away, take offense if the other person stays silent. And then we wonder why it’s easy with one person while every conversation with another turns into a fight.

Human Design has a clear explanation for this. Each person reaches decisions in their own way: one needs to hear the question and feel a response in the body, another needs to sleep on it, a third needs to say it out loud — it doesn’t matter to whom, what matters is that it’s spoken. This isn’t character or upbringing, it’s design, and it can’t be remade. But you can stop banging your head against it.

What exactly we calculate

For each person you add, we take the date, time and place of birth and determine two things: Type and inner Authority. Type answers the question “how does this person enter things at all” — waits for the invitation, responds to what’s offered, goes first. Authority answers the question “how do they make a decision” — with the body, with emotion, with a pause, through conversation.

That pair is what the advice is built from: how to approach them, in what form to ask a question, how much time to give for an answer and which reaction means “no” even if they said “fine” out loud. On a separate line — what’s better not to do with this person: don’t rush them, don’t present them with a done deal, don’t demand a decision on the spot.

You can add up to six people: a partner, a child, a parent, a friend, a boss. The data is entered once and saved in your browser; after that you pick a person with one tap.

How to use it so it actually helps

Don’t show the reading to the person themselves with the words “look, it says here that you should”. That’s a sure way to start a fight. The advice is written for you — it’s about what you can change, not about what someone else is obliged to fix in themselves.

And start small. Take one piece of advice — for example, ask your child yes/no questions instead of open ones, or don’t expect your husband to answer the same evening — and try it for a week. If things got easier, it works. If nothing changed, then that wasn’t the issue, and no chart outranks your own observation.

What this advice doesn’t do

It doesn’t diagnose and doesn’t explain a whole character. Type and Authority are about the way a person makes decisions, not about whether they’re kind or cruel, smart or not, love you or have fallen out of love. The chart doesn’t know any of that and can’t.

And it doesn’t replace a conversation. If there’s real trouble in a relationship — violence, addiction, resentment built up over years — that’s for a qualified professional, not a calculation by date of birth. We help with everyday things: how to ask, how not to pressure, how not to take someone else’s pause personally.